Meeting a solicitor for the first time can feel daunting. Many people focus on the immediate issue in front of them, such as divorce, children, or finances. Yet often the most important questions are the ones they never think to ask. These questions shape how the solicitor-client relationship works and can make the difference between a stressful experience and one where you feel supported and informed.
This guide highlights 10 often-overlooked questions that clients should consider asking, and why they matter.
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How will you communicate with me, and how often?
One of the most common frustrations clients express is feeling “left in the dark.” It is easy to assume your solicitor will update you regularly, but without asking, you may not know if those updates come once a week, once a month, or only when something significant changes.
Clarity around communication style can make a huge difference to your peace of mind. Some solicitors prefer email for efficiency, others may offer scheduled calls or face-to-face updates. Finding out early how often you can expect to hear from your solicitor, and through which channels, helps avoid unnecessary anxiety later on.
What costs should I expect beyond your fees?
When people think about legal costs, they usually focus on the solicitor’s hourly rate or fixed fee. But there are often other expenses that clients are not prepared for. Court application fees, the cost of expert witnesses or valuations, or fees for mediation sessions can all arise during a case.
Asking about these at the beginning gives you a clearer picture of the financial commitment ahead. A good solicitor should be transparent about likely costs, even when they cannot predict the exact figure. Keeping receipts, requesting written estimates, and asking whether payment plans are available can all help you feel more in control of your budget.
Who will actually be handling my case day-to-day?
It is common for clients to meet a senior solicitor at the first consultation, only to find that much of their case is managed by a junior colleague or paralegal. This is not necessarily a disadvantage – in fact, it can often mean that work is completed more cost-effectively.
The key is knowing who your main point of contact will be. Asking this upfront avoids confusion and reassures you that there is always someone familiar with your case who you can reach out to with questions.
What is the likely timescale, and what can delay it?
Family law matters rarely move as quickly as clients hope. Court backlogs, delays in receiving reports, or the actions of the other party can all slow progress. A solicitor cannot control every factor, but they can give you a sense of the typical timeline for cases like yours.
Asking about timescales helps manage expectations. It also gives you the chance to plan around key events, such as a court hearing or mediation session, rather than feeling constantly unprepared.
How do you approach negotiation versus court representation?
Every solicitor has their own way of working. Some will focus on negotiation and mediation, prioritising solutions that avoid the courtroom. Others are more litigation-focused, preparing each case with court in mind from the beginning.
Understanding your solicitor’s approach is important because it sets the tone for how your case will unfold. If your priority is minimising conflict for the sake of children, you may prefer someone who favours out-of-court resolution. If you need strong advocacy in a high-conflict case, knowing your solicitor is prepared to represent you firmly in court will be reassuring.
What are the potential risks I might not have thought about?
Clients often approach their solicitor with a clear idea of the outcome they want. What they do not always consider are the risks that could affect that outcome. For example, a financial settlement might not be approved by the court if it is judged to be unfair, or a proposal around child arrangements might not be in line with the child’s best interests.
Asking your solicitor to outline potential risks can be invaluable. It prepares you for the possibility that things may not go exactly as planned, and helps you make better-informed decisions at each stage. It also builds trust, because you know your solicitor is being honest about both strengths and weaknesses in your case.
If things change in my situation, how flexible is the strategy?
Life rarely stands still during a family law case. A change in job, a relocation, or new financial pressures may all affect the direction of your case. Asking your solicitor how flexible their strategy can be gives you reassurance that they will adapt to your needs if circumstances change.
Some strategies are more adaptable than others, and knowing this early can save time and stress later.
How will you help me prepare for meetings and court?
For many people, the idea of attending court is intimidating. Even formal meetings with the other party can feel overwhelming. Asking your solicitor how they will prepare you is important, because preparation builds confidence.
Your solicitor should guide you on what documents to bring, the questions you may be asked, and how to present yourself clearly. This may seem like a small detail, but feeling supported in these moments can transform the experience from something frightening into something manageable.
What support is available outside the legal process?
Family law does not exist in isolation. Clients often benefit from counselling, mediation, parenting programmes, or financial advice. A solicitor who recognises this and can point you towards trusted resources is giving you more than legal expertise – they are showing empathy for your wider situation.
Asking about support outside the legal process helps you understand the full range of help available to you. It may not all be legal in nature, but it can be just as important to your wellbeing and long-term stability.
What does success look like for my case?
Success in family law is personal. For one client, it may mean securing financial independence. For another, it may mean protecting the relationship with their children. Success might not always look like “winning,” but it should always reflect what matters most to you.
Asking your solicitor this question encourages an honest conversation about what is realistic. It also ensures that your solicitor understands your priorities, and that you understand how those priorities fit within the legal framework.
Next Steps
You do not need to have all the right questions prepared before meeting a solicitor. A good solicitor will guide you through what matters most and provide the clarity you need. If you would like to understand your options and start with confidence, contact Waely Law today to speak with our family law team.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I prepare before meeting my solicitor?
Bring any relevant documents, such as marriage certificates, financial records, or previous court orders. Preparing a short timeline of events can also be very helpful.
What if I do not understand the legal jargon?
Do not be afraid to ask for clarification. Solicitors are used to explaining complex terms in plain language. If something is unclear, asking will ensure you stay informed.
Is it okay to ask about costs at the first meeting?
Yes, and it is encouraged. Understanding likely costs early helps you plan and reduces the risk of unexpected expenses later.
Do I need to have all my documents ready before seeing a solicitor?
No, but the more information you can provide, the better. Your solicitor can advise you on what is essential and what can be provided later.
References
Law Society: Using a Solicitor
